I cannot begin to imagine how low that girls self esteem must have been to do something like that to begin with...and now....I am saddened for her. She gave away a huge part of herself, and if not cared for properly, will never get if back.
While the number is kinda stunning the fact, the act of having sex with multiple partners is not unusual. My fear is that these young adults will be punished or stigmatized for this. As an older adult (much older) I personally know many women my age or close to my age who did things like this in high school (including my sister in law who is still proud of it at age 51). It's kind of a thing that some girls really enjoy. I don't see any value in punishing every girl or boy who has done this.
I don't see punishing necessarily...but I do think that at the age of 15 the "girl" has some personal trauma or issues to do something like this....so I think that needs to be addressed. Not punished, she certainly does not need to be made to feel worse about herself. In my opinion....she needs to learn that she has value, and that she was beautifully and wonderfully made...and that actions like that do not get you accepted or welcomed under normal circumstances...typically they get one ostrisized. By my version of normal I suppose..but then I am just a girl...or rather a 52 year old mother and grandmother.
I agree with you Lisa. Any girl at 15 who is doing this in need of help, that doesn't mean punishment but the above Anonymous who is talking about his family doing this and it's ok is obviously in need of help himself.
Someone needs some serious help. More than one set of parents messed up, not just the girl's but the boys as well.
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I cannot begin to imagine how low that girls self esteem must have been to do something like that to begin with...and now....I am saddened for her. She gave away a huge part of herself, and if not cared for properly, will never get if back.
ReplyDeleteWhile the number is kinda stunning the fact, the act of having sex with multiple partners is not unusual. My fear is that these young adults will be punished or stigmatized for this. As an older adult (much older) I personally know many women my age or close to my age who did things like this in high school (including my sister in law who is still proud of it at age 51). It's kind of a thing that some girls really enjoy. I don't see any value in punishing every girl or boy who has done this.
ReplyDeleteI don't see punishing necessarily...but I do think that at the age of 15 the "girl" has some personal trauma or issues to do something like this....so I think that needs to be addressed. Not punished, she certainly does not need to be made to feel worse about herself. In my opinion....she needs to learn that she has value, and that she was beautifully and wonderfully made...and that actions like that do not get you accepted or welcomed under normal circumstances...typically they get one ostrisized. By my version of normal I suppose..but then I am just a girl...or rather a 52 year old mother and grandmother.
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I agree with you Lisa. Any girl at 15 who is doing this in need of help, that doesn't mean punishment but the above Anonymous who is talking about his family doing this and it's ok is obviously in need of help himself.
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