Wednesday, July 26, 2023

"He's Standing Right Over There"

 

  His breathing had changed and was shallower now. The medication was helping to maintain

a comfort level that kept the pain he was experiencing at bay. The "Boss" and her mother sat

on the couch scrolling through pictures from the last 70 or so years.


 He was born in Munich Germany during the war. 1943. After meeting the "Boss's" mother

while she was on a trip overseas, in the early 60's, he came to America. They were married

and had two children. Later they divorced and remained friendly once the dust settled.

Splitting his time between Germany and the US he had an auto repair business here and 

a small construction company in Munich.

 

Last year he was diagnosed with lymphoma that developed into three tumors. Chemo was used

initially but failed. After some consultations, a treatment called CAR-T was used.

 As with any treatment the outcome can vary. You hope for the best but prepare for the worst.

He never fully recovered and ended up with other issues. The CAR-T did work and he was 

cancer free. The other issues were most likely side-effect induced.


  The "Boss" was unconsciously monitoring his breathing as he slept. They chatted about the pictures.

He exhaled.

She waited.

He was gone.

His face suddenly took on a look of serene peace.

Her mother looked up, paused and said, " Can you see him?"

"Where??"

"He's standing against the wall next to the bed" 

She looked and saw nothing

"I don't see him"

"He's there, he has on brown corduroys and his favorite turtleneck, from the 1970's. I forgot about

that outfit.  He looked down at the bed where his body is and said "That's not me" "

 

He passed yesterday afternoon around 3pm and is now at peace.

 

We had a running joke at family gatherings. Whenever he would get angry about some issue I would 

tell him to stop being a Sour Kraut. 

 


 

We would blast Rammstein once in awhile and get in trouble from the ladies.

 

God Speed H.F.K. , God Speed.




54 comments:

  1. Sorry for your loss Irish.

    Exile1981

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  2. Bless you brother. Its hard, its so hard.

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  3. Godspeed to you and your family. My condolences on your loss.

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  4. My condolences.

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  5. So eine Schweinerei !

    Rammstein ist echt Super. :-)

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  6. When my Mother in Law was dying she asked my Wife if she could see Richard her husband. Sandy said no, MiL said he is standing right there. I firmly believe that he was there. He from Pa and her from Alabama, met during the war before he went overseas with the 82nd.
    We had a Cat that died. About a week later (actually it was Halloween night) while giving out candy I saw Brandy walking around outside. Had to be him because never saw another cat around like him.
    Yes, there are things we don't understand.

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  7. Peace to you and yours in this difficult time.

    Your in my prayers Irish.

    Michael

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  8. Decades ago I was taking photographs (with something called 35mm film) and happened to snap a couple of shots of our crew of guys coming back to work in Boston's Post Office Square.
    When the pictures were developed I bought them into work and was sorting through them on the desk when my friend suddenly reached in and took one photo and stared at it.
    He asked when I had taken the shot and I explained it was earlier in the week. He continued to stare at it until he asked if he could have that picture, he wanted to take it home and show it to his wife. "OK, but what's special about that photo?".
    He pointed to the figure of a woman walking near the group and said "That's my wife's mother".
    I said, "OK, did you know she was in Boston that day", as I waited to hear why he was acting so odd.
    "No", he replied. "She couldn't be. She's been dead for three years".
    He brought the photo home to his wife, who agreed it was her mother and it even was her favorite coat and handbag.
    He was in the photo too, but his eyes were on the ground and he didn't see her at the time.

    My next brush with the supernatural was when my mother was in hospice and near the end. She had bouts of dementia with periods of lucidity, during which she'd talk about the visitors she had seen. Always of people that had departed; my father, her parents, other deceased family members. The sole exception was her cousin Dick, someone that she had been very close too as a young girl but hadn't seen in person in many years. I thought it interesting that Dick was the only living person she mentioned as having visited her. And her descriptions of his visits were always so vivid.
    After she passed I was making calls around the country informing surviving family members, Uncle Dick had moved many years earlier and I didn't have an address for him, but eventually I reached my cousin, his daughter.
    Who apologized for not having informed our part of the family that Uncle Dick had passed away, three weeks before my mother.

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  9. Unfortunately, with time and age (and the not-a-vaxx), such occurrences will be coming more often, closer together. Such is life....and death.
    Mourn that they are gone, because you miss their company.
    But also rejoice in the lives you had, touching together, here and there, now and then.
    Remember......

    President Elect B Woodman

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  10. God bless. Prayers for you and yours.

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  11. Prayers said for you and all involved, Amen.

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  12. Praying for you all.

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  13. Irish, condolences from the 762 clan.

    Tom762

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  14. May Heaven Greet him with Anthems sweet.....

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  15. Deepest sympathies and prayers. God bless you in your mourning.

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  16. Prayers for you and your family.

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  17. While it won't soften the blow, be happy in the knowledge that you WILL meet them again - just on the other side of The Veil.
    And what a joyous reunion it will be!

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  18. So sorry for your loss, Irish. Prayers for you and your family.

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  19. Hi Irish
    Peace...................
    skybill

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  20. “There are more things in Heaven and Earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.”

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  21. Irish, I’ve recently gone through the same thing with the passing of my dad. I can appreciate the feeling of your loss
    You’re in my prayers buddy

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  22. So sorry for your loss.

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  23. We never really "die". Ohio Guy

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  24. For in living, we die and in death there is life. Wishing you and yours peace, Irish.

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    1. "As in Adam, all men die. Even so in Christ shall all be made alive."
      And thus it is. We all shuffle off this Mortal Coil. Can't be avoided. The pain and seperatioin is but a moment.

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  25. May God bless and keep you and yours, John. You are a good and faithful son, brother, relative and friend.

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  26. Very sorry for your wife’s loss.

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  27. Irish thank you so much for sharing this with us. As we get older the passing of friends and family becomes more frequent, but never easier. Prayers sent, peace be with you.

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  28. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
    love leaves a memory no one can steal.

    Praying for you and yours.

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    1. John, so sorry for your wife's (and your) loss. Prayers.

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  29. Irish, my apologies. I didn't realize the significance when I read this yesterday. Sincerest condolences to you and your family.

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  30. Mein herzliches Beileid.
    Klaus

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  31. As others have said, your FIL isn't really gone, he has simply gone ahead. I pray that your grieving will be lightened by God's love and the sweet memories you have.

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  32. Very sorry for your loss, take care of you and yours...

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  33. That was a tough read man. Take care Irish.

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  34. My condolences to you and "the boss". I too didn't get it when I read this yesterday.

    Nemo

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  35. Belated condolences to all of your family. I've been there, done that. But he's at peace now, no more suffering.

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  36. Most families have a story like that, or two. When we all became scientific in the 1960s, people were ashamed to admit it, but that doesn't make it not true

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    1. You are right, and the further we get from our instinctive selves the worse the world gets.

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  37. John - when my mother's brother was hit by a car while walking home from work, we were 200 miles away at an amusement park in our home state. She turned to my father and said we had to leave, right now. She said her brother was hurt, and dying. When we got home, she got a call from her mother, telling her she needed to go there ASAP, and we all piled back into the car and drove to where they lived. He had passed shortly before we arrived.
    My father died from cancer 50 years ago when I was in my early twenties. I will always miss him, but I am grateful for the years we did have together. Cherish the memories you have.

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  38. Deepest sympathies for the Boss, her Mom, you & all who loved and respected him. Clearly a great man's man! Mrs Robinson

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  39. The good don't always die young.......

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  40. I missed the news of the loss and am very late with my sympathy and prayers. Others have said words of comfort and confidently appraised the reunion in the afterlife far better than I can; I'll add my support and appreciation.
    Best to you and yours, friend.

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