Monday, February 27, 2012

Why Do Men Do Irrational Things?

Recently there was a Cop on Cop shooting and suicide in Massachusetts


It has made the news everyday and lots of people are talking about it and coming up


with their own conclusions.


I was reading through the comments on the Boston Herald website and came across the following 


post.  Needless to say, I was explaining this same exact situation to my Mom last night.


She was asking "How can someone do this?" and I explained that usually that guy loses 

everything.


Then I read this today:

It sounds like someone has A SHIT TON of experience with "The System"......



THE RESENTFUL, GREEDY, MANIPULATIVE MOTHER'S PLAN TO GET AND KEEP CUSTODY OF CHILDREN
Here is THE PLAN which explains the nearly foolproof way to get and keep custody of children, and to make fathers pay. There are variations which can be adapted to special circumstances, of course, but expert players have always learned the rules, and then learned to break them for even better outcomes.

FIRST, Start with the domestic abuse restraining order - Side One of the Iron Triangle.


A restraining order under Mass. General Laws Chapter 209A against the father is the hammer, the fist, which delivers the first blow in any good plan to get custody. For maximum destruction, it should be obtained in the District Court, not the Probate and Family Court, because the District Court cannot order visitation.


A Chapter 209A restraining order is obtained easily by telling the judge you feel "fear", and "you don't know what he may do". It works every time. A victim witness advocate in the court will assist you to place the correct lies on the application, and to state them for maximum impact.

Make sure to also put the children on the restraining order by claiming that the father has put the children at risk or emotionally abuses them. Just make up any old thing and the judge will buy it. Then, you instantly cut off the children from their father at the very minute the order is issued. Ah, sweet.

In a minute or two in court, the order will be issued, and The Plan is underway. Cool! Having such an order against the father is proof positive to all others, including all other courts, all your girl friends, as well as your family, (who do not understand how easy it is to get an order), that he is a vile abuser, and you are a victim.

When you go to family court later for your divorce, it will be established, by virtue of the restraining order, that he is an abuser. When he wants to visit with the children, he will only be able to get supervised visits, or even better, none at all. By doing it this way, you avoid a messy custody hearing, where the father could bring up actual facts or arguments about his love for or relationship with the kids. How ridiculous! The domestic violence card trumps everything, and drowns out his protests about not seeing the children.

There are several other important reasons you must get the restraining order in District Court, not Probate and Family Court. First, they are REALLY easy to get in District Court. Second, it separates the information about abuse from the custody determination, so the judge in the family court can't know you lied in the District Court to get the order. Divide and conquer is the name of the game. Third, the principle of "comity" operates to your advantage, which means that a second court will honor what the first one did, and rarely change it. Thus, the family court will leave the District Court order in place, because they will assume it was obtained on real and legitimate grounds. Us girls know better.


And lastly, if you go to District Court it will stay in place longer that way. Family Court has lots of hearings, where he could come in and get rid of the order, once the truth becomes known that he is a good father who has never abused his children. However, the Family court judge doesn't want to mess with amending the District Court's order, because it is just more work in an already very overloaded schedule. So, long past when the family court judge knows there is no grounds for an order - since the evidence about no abuse by the father eventually will be exposed - it is still easier to leave the District Court order in place. What a system! Works like a charm.

SECOND, Call The Mass. Dept. of Children and Families ("DCF") - The Second Side of the Iron Triangle.


This agency, which used to be called the Dept. of Social Services (DSS), can easily be used to subdue the father, because its people are stupid, stupid, stupid. All you have to do is call the DCF child abuse 800-number hotline and allege he has abused the kids, and voila, they are all over it. The more dramatic the story about abuse, the better result you will get.


After you make a report, then a dopey DCF investigator, 23 years old and childless, and who wants to save the world from abuse but who couldn't find her own butt with both hands, will come out and do a so-called investigation. That will probably consist of an interview with you and not with the alleged-perp father, and maybe with a school counselor or relative of the mother. They will then conclude that the father is an abuser and issue a written finding to that effect. Of course! Duh!

Make sure you get a copy, so when you go into family court, you have both the restraining order and the DCF abuse judgment to prove that the Dad is an abuser, and you will win big. The judge will not look past the surface to get to the actual facts, so don't worry - Your lies won't be discovered until much later, if at all.

These tactics are dirty, slimy and underhanded - AND THEY WORK.
THIRD, File an emergency motion for full custody in Probate and Family Court - The third side of The Iron Triangle.


If you are smart, you will have gotten a free lawyer by now, since you are a victim of "domestic violence". Maybe you will have gone for a few days to a domestic abuse shelter, just to play the drama out a little more. Anyway, you then have the lawyer file an emergency complaint in the Probate and Family court, and get a quick temporary motion date, so you can move to end visits right now with the "abuser".


At the visitation motion hearing, your lawyer should accuse the dad and say whatever lie about him and abuse that comes to her mind. You have the restraining order, the DCF finding, and maybe a note from a shelter. You should also get the tears going, so the judge will know what a victim you are. If called upon to speak, you tearfully recount your fear of abuse, your concern for your children being "at risk", and then just sob uncontrollably.


You'll walk out of there with an order giving you full custody of the children and no visits with their father, or at worst, supervised visits at some hell-hole of a supervised visitation center "manned" by women named "Moose" and "Chuck" or something, for which he will have to pay a lot of money. Bwa-ha-ha.

FOURTH, Go in for the Kill - Make a false police report about a restraining order violation and get him arrested and put in jail.

A restraining order gives you incredible power. He can't see you or the children, and has to watch his back every minute to make sure he isn't violating it, because that is a crime. So, to really show who is boss, and to have some good dirty fun, you need to go all the way and get him charged with a violation of the order.


All you have to do is make something up to tell the police, like he called and threatened you, or drove by your house, or maybe went to the emergency room when your child was hurt, or just about anything. It really doesn't matter whether it is true or not, since the system never checks. For this small price to pay in throwing away your integrity, you'll soon enjoy seeing him hauled away in handcuffs, preferably at work or somewhere that will cause the most possible embarrassment. Try not to get caught giving him the middle digit as you sneer while they are arresting him.

Making a false allegation of violation of the restraining order has many advantages: It adds to your proof of his being an abuser when you go to family court, costs him a bundle for legal fees and lost work, and humiliates him even more in front of his friends, family, and employer.
What's not to like?


The only problem may be that eventually you will have to swear to the false allegation under oath. Don't worry - they don't prosecute perjury.

FIFTH, Go For the Dough! -

Now you have him right where you want him: Emotionally beaten down, charged with a crime, falsely accused on every front, slandered all over town as an abuser. Could it get any better? Well, yes. Now it's time to take all his money, too.

Whatever you do, don't forget to get your money out of the dad at the temporary motion hearing when you ask for custody. You deserve it! You put up with the jerk for long enough. The new child support guidelines allow you to get two pounds of flesh, not just one, so get ready to party. Make sure that you fill out a child support guidelines worksheet to establish the correct amount.


SIXTH, File a Complaint for Contempt for Child Support

If he gets the slightest bit behind on child support, have your free lawyer file a complaint for contempt immediately. Then you get your money, and the lawyer gets huge attorneys fees, plus you get to give him a big smirk as he slumps dejectedly out of the courthouse.


If he has lost his job and can't pay the child support, it will be even more fun. You can get him put in jail for non-payment of support. Does it get any better than this?

SEVENTH, Keep the temporary order in place as long as possible -

The longer the order is in place, the more the father will suffer. (Of course the children are suffering too, but that is no matter.) If he comes in to court to get it changed or to get more visits, weep and wail some more about abuse and violence and risk to the children. It will work.

EIGHTH, Take the children to "Therapy" -

This part of The Plan is critically important. You need to find a gullible therapist or social worker right away to take your children to see, in order to get expert opinion for court about the effect of the "abuse" on the children.


How do you find a good one? Here are some key factors: The therapist or psychologist or social worker should be willing to speak only with you, and never hear from the abusive father, because it may put her 'at risk'. The therapist has to be personally not very well adjusted, and must believe that men are evil abusers and women are victims. Most of all, the therapist has to know how to manipulate the innocent minds of your children to hate their father and to make them believe he is a bad man.


If you can find one like this - and they are out there in droves - you will have the case pretty well locked up. Courts think expert psychologists and social workers are gods for some absurd reason, even though there is almost no science involved. Just use that to your advantage, and get one of those "good" ones to help you.

NINTH, Obstruct, Obstruct, Obstruct -

If the Father does somehow get some visits with the children, make sure to cause as much disruption and as many problems as possible. Bring the children late for visits, or call and say a child is "ill" and cannot visit that day.


One of the most important things you must do is complain to the visitation center that the father is being totally inappropriate with the children at the visits, and that visits should be suspended. Then, ask the supervisor to make an unfavorable report to the court asking for visits to be stopped immediately. Incredibly, visitation centers don't even allow the children and the father to discuss their previous lives together, show pictures of pets, or do anything remotely normal or human. Isn't that great? It gives you loads of opportunities to shut down the visits.

After creating a false crisis at the visitation center, file a motion at court to end the visits. At the hearing, give the judge the bad report from the visitation center and tell the court that the children are totally unmanageable when they return from visits. (Obviously, you know it is false, but because they are so excited to see their father, this can't be allowed to go on.) These time-proven tactics should stop visits dead in their tracks, if you work them right.

Dealing With The Guilt
Well, that is The Plan. It works almost every time if you hang tough and don't succumb to guilt over the trauma you are inflicting upon your children and concern over your own perjury and manipulation of everyone in the system. Come on, sister! The emotional destruction of your children is a small price to pay for such a great triumph of money and power, and the sheer joy of utterly ruining your children's father.


What is your problem, girl? The system WANTS you to do this. The system gave you the restraining order, the system gave you the DCF supported finding of abuse, and the system gave you the court order keeping your children from their father. It would not have done that if it wasn't the right thing to do, would it?

Or would it?

One minor problem may show up later: Your children may eventually find out that you lied to them about their father. When they grow up, they may find out that he wasn't the monster you told them about, and that they were cheated out of a father during their childhood. They may even resent you at that point. Oh, well. You had them when it counted, when they were worth big money to you, so don't sweat it. And who knows, maybe you can fool them again, just like when they were young. Your magic touch may still work.

Or maybe it won't. And maybe you'll die old, bitter, and alone. But, not to worry. You won, didn't you? Or maybe you didn't.

9 comments:

  1. A horrible situation to deal with after the fact.

    Why I plan to teach both my children to never sleep with anybody stupid or mean(ugly is your choice) they can all breed true.

    I really wish that there were better solutions to things out there.

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  2. Without a doubt the most depressing thing I've read this week.

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  3. I ran into the same problem in Sarpy County, Nebraska. That's why I support Fathers & Families. http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/

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  4. If this happens to me again, I will just kill her at the first stage. I will probably spend 15 years in jail (maybe less if i plead temporalily insand).

    Never have to deal with her again and she got what she wanted...an abusive man

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  5. just so happens, boys, that it happens to women a lot too. i havent seen my eldest daughter i nearly eight years.

    a few years ago i printed up tshirts - saying 12 years in family court or six in long bay (prison) ...

    sadly enough on insanity i couldnt have had my daughter back a few years ago if i took on the same thought.

    and, my daughter would be safe with me, instead of her psychopath grandmother and paedophile grandfather.

    :-(

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  6. Guys, here is what to do if your wife is going to divorce you:

    Immediately withdraw all assets and savings and then FLEE THE COUNTRY and go to Asia. The government cannot touch you for child support and alimony if you are living OUTSIDE of their country.

    So, if you are going to get divorced, then GET THE HELL OUT OF THE WEST and GO TO ASIA BEFORE, note, BEFORE your wife divorces and financially ruins you.

    Okay? Got that?

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  7. It works just like this in EVERY state.

    I've sat in a McDonalds and listened to a woman and her lawyer...
    Lawyer: "Are you AFRAID of him?"
    Woman: "No - he'd never hurt me - I just..."
    L: "That's a SHAME - because if you could say you were AFRAID of him, I could get you the house, the kids, the car, alimony and child-support TOMORROW! By the time it gets to court for a custody hearing you've established a routine and the judge will NEVER change it because that would be 'bad for the kids' ..
    W: "No, seriously - he would NEVER hurt me, we just don't really get along any more..."
    L: "LISTEN TO ME: If you could *SAY* you were afraid of him, I get you everything you want TOMORROW! But if you go in there and say 'I'm not afraid of him" then you've got to fight it out and WHO KNOWS what will happen... Are you SURE you're not afraid of him?
    Woman: "OOOoooohh.... Well, yeah - I guess I am - I mean he can be a bit scary when he's MAD, and..."
    Lawyer: "That's what I THOUGHT you said!..."

    And yeah - I went **OFF!**

    Anon@11:16 nailed it first: I can't tell you how many times I thought "If I'd shot her when I first thought about it, I'd be out by now!"

    Anon@ 3:37 - you got it ALMOST right! ALMOST!
    Thing is, what you REALLY should do is find yourself a hot little asian woman to marry in the FIRST place, and then keep her away from all these psychotic American biatches.

    There are a (VERY) *FEW* American women that haven't been completely ruined by Pheminism and Progressivism, but they're VERY few and far between. 4Despite all the lies about "abuse", 3/4 of divorces are filed by women, and the most common reason is "we just grew apart."

    They've been brainwashed to expect some hollywood/fairy-tale "romance" and when real life sets in - and they have to actually WORK, they get unhappy. When it eventually occurs to them that they can have all the benefits of marriage with none of the responsibility, OFF THEY GO!.... and the CHILDREN pay the price!

    False accusations of *ANY* crime *MUST* carry the same penalty as the crime alleged.

    Falsely accuse your ex of molesting his kids? 15-to-LIFE! THAT is the ONLY way we'll ever stop this sickness!

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  8. I left out one more thing I wanted to say...

    As I told my ex's Liar in the courthouse hallway on the afternoon we went to the first hearing over their false accusations against me:

    "When you take away everything that matters to a man, he might just act as if he's got nothing left to lose!"

    Simple.

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